Health, Positivity, Transformation

Body Transformation – My journey so far!

I’m not skinny, I don’t have a perfect body and I don’t live on lettuce. I’m a real woman, who faces real challenges has a body that needs some work and I like food!

Recently people who know me keep asking me what I’m doing and how have I lost so much weight…it feels great but what feels even nicer is sharing and that’s the reason I am writing this post so that others can perhaps gain the same, similar or even better results than I have…

For those who know me, I am big on the concept of challenging yourself to be the best you can be in every aspect of life to create a balanced and harmonious self – mind, body and spirit!

This will be the first of a series of posts as I have not quite finished yet 😉

But for starters I thought I’d give you some background and how I got here.

In my twenties it was easy to just eat anything and everything without having to worry about putting on weight. Friday night movie and chill consisted of a large pizza…to myself of course, a bottle of coke, a large chocolate bar and hey, why not, some butter popcorn and a tub of ice cream…don’t stop there…hot chocolate with cream and chocolate and a brownie to go with it? Bring it on!

Then I entered my thirties, still in pretty good shape so I never really worried about diet, calories or macros or the difference between high and low carb. Food was yummy, I ate it and that was that!

In 2015 things changed, I had just moved to London from half way across the world, started a new job in an industry I knew nothing about, had no friends or social life in this new city, I lost my dad, 5 friends and my dog – so all in all not exactly the BEST year of my life!

I hadn’t realised it at the time, but food had become my best friend and my painkiller, a coping mechanism! Whenever feelings got too difficult to deal with I’d stuff them back down with a brownie. Feeling overwhelmed….a cookie or a few could sort that!

My mind finally caught up with what had happened at Christmas that year when I went home to visit my family and everyone, EVERYONE kept commenting on how much weight I’d gained.

2016 and I realised something had to change and I had to do it myself, the weight was not going to fall off on its own! Not having had much experience with the whole diet thing didn’t exactly help the situation. So I thought I’d consult the know-it-all, Google! Why not, right? As good a place to start as any, I figured. So I’d Google something, try it out for a few weeks, step on the scales, figure out it didn’t work, try something new, step on the scales, it didn’t work, try something else….that went on for quite a while!

Not to be totally ungrateful though, I did lose some weight with my diet experiments, but I still didn’t look like the me I knew, I didn’t feel like the me I knew…I felt like a prisoner in my own body, trapped! What’s worse was that I didn’t know how to shift it. So the search began once more and Google and I had a love hate relationship as more trials ended in minimal results.

I got fed up! I decided to just make peace with the weight and focus on other areas of my life…I started focussing on meeting new people, making new friends, dressing right for this new body type and learning to just surrender the weight loss thing.

I asked the Universe for a solution and just let it go, I knew when the timing was right the solution would present itself.  I learnt trust, faith and a lot about life during this time, and about myself too. I really began to appreciate the person I was on the inside, grief changed me but I liked the way I had changed, the loss I felt had given me insights and perspectives I had not known before, my capacity for love, compassion, patience, empathy and understanding had grown. My appreciation for life itself grew. I was stronger emotionally, mentally and spiritually. I had dealt with the loss, hurt and the grief. I’m not saying the hurt has vanished, I still feel it when I think of a loved one that I’ve lost and it really hurts, I just don’t stuff the feelings down with brownies anymore!

2017 began and I made a promise to myself to make it the year I start creating a healthier, happier me on all fronts, work, relationships, mind, body and spirituality.

I love my work, I love being a coach, I love everything that goes with it, the smiles, the tears, the triumphs so I knew I had that sorted!

My work with my grief counsellor helped me feel emotionally like me again and not feeling guilty every time I smiled, laughed or actually enjoyed myself. Relationships were great, I had made amazing friends, I was dating and meeting new people, mentally I was stronger, spiritually too! The only thing that I had still not quite figured out was the body bit but I continued to have faith that the Universe will present the correct solution by grace and in the most perfect way!

In September I returned from a trip to find a new housemate living in our house share! Her positive energy and vibrant self was and still is quite mesmerizing! She ran and trained at the gym religiously and one day, we got to talking, I told her about my weight loss journey and she opened me up to the idea of a personal trainer – the seed was planted!

I thought about it for a while and I figured, when you need something done right you hire an expert right?!

So one day out of the blue she arrived home with some snapshots of the bios of trainers at the gym – she read through them one by one and told me to say stop when I heard something that resonated with me so I asked the universe for a sign and I listened.

I heard one of my Dad’s favourite quotes by Socrates – ‘The secret of change is to focus all your energy, not fighting the old, but on building the new’

This was my sign!

I didn’t hesitate I called the number, booked a consultation and signed on.

It was October, I finally got working on the one area of my life that needed some serious work. About time! I got a personal trainer, I joined the gym and I have a healthier and happier relationship with food now. I eat more now than I’ve ever eaten in any of my ‘diets’ and I lose bodyfat not just on the scales but in centimetres too!

I’m 7 weeks into my training program and 7kg’s down. I’ve lost 2 dress sizes and almost in need of a new wardrobe, my skinny jeans have pockets of air in them and just aren’t skinny anymore and my bodycon dresses don’t hug anymore – they hang! I have a date tonight and I had to go out and buy a new black dress – in a size 10….I had to read the label a few times before it sank in!

I’m nowhere near my goal weight and it’s OK because I know each day that passes I am one step closer by grace and in the most perfect way. I don’t need to think anymore, I don’t Google diets or weight loss, I don’t Google quick, fast weight loss tips or appetite suppressants. My personal trainer does the thinking and the planning for me, Alexis has helped me not just shed the weight and strengthen my body, he’s helped me change my entire mindset, he’s helped me find exactly the foods and exercise that work best for me and he keeps me on track and totally motivated. I’m not going to pretend it’s easy breezy….it’s NOT! But it IS worth it!

Body transformation takes discipline and determination, it’s not something you do half-heartedly and hope for the best. If you want results you have to work your butt off and give 100% no slip ups, no cheating, no excuses, no complaints that it’s too cold to get out of bed at 5am!

Everything in life worth having requires some effort and sacrifice – I’ve still got 5 weeks to go of my body transformation challenge but if the first 7 weeks are anything to judge by, I am certain I will be grinning at the before and after photos!

I’ve been documenting and compiling EVERYTHING in order to help others who are also struggling to achieve great results!

Once my 12 weeks are complete I will be sharing more about my compilation but in the meantime if you have any questions for me or if you would like to get in touch with my trainer and see if he can help you too (he does Skype consults) then do let me know and I’m happy to share his contact details or if you prefer you can connect with Alexis directly via social media – don’t forget to say I sent you! 🙂



If you would like to connect with me and follow my journey on social media my details are:


Instagram: @nadiajoydating
Twitter: @nadiajoydating

I look forward to hearing from you!

With Love,



Dating, Positive Life Skills

Raise Your Vibration and Attract a Great Partner

I’m writing this post as one of my Facebook fans requested I write a piece on the importance of raising to a higher vibration to attract positive life experiences. As a dating coach, I am writing this post from the perspective of how you can use this exercise to attract a great life partner.

In this instance, we will look at Positive Vibration and how you can consciously create positive life experiences for yourself. When you are happy and positive you will attract a happy and positive partner!

Every thing and experience we have are not a result of pure luck, chance or coincidence, we have created all that we see around us and all of this is made up of energy.

Our lives, our circumstances, the people we have in our life experience all of this is a result of our thoughts and actions, which of course are the manifestations we have brought into being.

Negative thoughts = negative circumstances = negative energy = negative vibration

The more negative we are the more negativity we attract. That being said, the same goes for positivity.

Positive thoughts = positive circumstances = positive energy = positive vibration

As someone with a positive vibration you may come across to the outside world as the luckiest girl alive – Someone who has everything they could ever want or wish for – but in truth, this is all something you create for yourself – anyone can do it if they really want to!

To determine your frequency is really quite simple. All you need to do is pause for a moment and pay close attention to your thoughts and how you are feeling. Think of some events over the last few days and focus on how you feel.
You will notice that when you think of something positive and hold that positive experience in your heart and mind, you feel happy, inspired and content; when you hold negative thoughts you feel disappointed, frustrated, angry or sad.
The better you feel, the higher your vibrational frequency will be; the worse, the lower.

Everything in your life experience begins with you!

As the creator of your life, the good news is you have the power to change your frequency at any moment. Even something as simple as smiling or laughing (laughter is the best medicine), doing something fun like listening to your favourite song, going for a swim or being creative can get the positive vibes flowing.

Here are a few ways to raise your vibration:

Meditate or practice Mindfulness (If you would like more information on how to do this please get in touch) – Extensive Scientific studies, including one at Harvard Medical School, shows that meditation and mindfulness practice permanently strengthens the most evolved portion of the human brain – the frontal lobe – which is linked to increased abstract thought, cognitive reasoning, creativity and positivity. It also triggers the brain to release naturally occurring neurotransmitters, including dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin and endorphins, which are linked to different aspects of happiness from simple pleasure to a deep sense of calm. Regardless of your religious orientation or which method you choose to meditate, sitting still for even five minutes a day can help you clear the mind, confront and minimize negative conscious and unconscious thinking patterns and connect to the divine space within that transcends thoughts, feeling and circumstance. Over time, this practice will raise your energetic frequency and contribute to a happier, more uplifted experience of yourself and others – This higher frequency will allow you to attract a partner that is equally happy and uplifting to be with.

Eat Clean – This does not mean you have to be a vegan or vegetarian to reap the benefits of a higher more positive vibration. Just pay attention to what you choose to eat. Some foods vibrate low and some vibrate high. If the food you consume is covered in pesticides, it will leave you feeling weaker. So will artificial highly processed foods. The good, high-vibrational foods are organic fruits, vegetables, whole grains, nuts, seeds, and naturally occurring fats – Rule of thumb is – if it’s highly processed its low energy.

Water and Movement – Stay hydrated. By drinking water you assist your bodily functions in so many ways, one of which is to expel toxins. Also, try to work some movement into your day, this does not have to be a daily half marathon but get your body moving, a short walk, dancing, yoga, anything that gets you up and moving. Remember a healthy body = a healthy mind and since our vibration is influenced primarily by our thoughts a healthy strong mind helps heaps.

TV and Music – Again, pay attention to what you watch and listen to Lyrics of anger, breakups, hurt, hate, pain, violence, drama and fear send messages to your subconscious. If you want to attract love, listen to songs about real, passionate, long-lasting love. Also, pay attention to the TV shows you watch, Sex and the City although entertaining does not send positive messages of healthy love relationships, in addition to this magazines, media and advertising are constantly showing us adverts that make us think shopping, travels or pills will resolve all our problems. Same goes for books and magazines – choose wisely.

Home and Work environments – You spend a lot of your time at home and at work. Although you cannot control the people you work with you can control your perception of them and you do have control of your workspace – Choose to look for the best in someone and deal with challenges in a positive way. Keep your work space clean, tidy and free of any clutter. Pay attention to your computer and phone wallpapers as well. At home use the same principle of neatness and clutter free environment – if you need a professional organiser to come and help you get one! (If you live in London I can recommend someone who will come and do this for you). Look into Feng Shui and position furniture, art, mirrors etc in the correct way. Some tips include:

  • A good solid headboard placed firmly against a wall
  • Fresh linen, clean curtains and soft furnishings all over your home
  • Remove all unnecessary extra cushions and fluffy animal toys from your bed
  • Use complementing colours in your home that create a balanced flow of love energy
  • Select appropriate art for your home – no single sassy lady paintings – think love, romance, couples!
  • No TV in the bedroom – The bedroom is for sleep and spending quality time with your love – YES even if you are still single it’s important to send the universe the correct message.
  • No work in your bedroom – if you must use your laptop, once you are done put it away in your work bag.
  • Furniture should be symmetrical – one bedside table does not work – if you don’t have room for two then get rid of the one.
  • Beautify your home with art, flowers and fragrance
  • Get rid of all reminders, gifts or articles that are connected to a previous relationship.
  • Use candles in pairs to promote a loving glow – scented is good too

Toxic People – This includes friends and family. Consciously make the decision to spend the bulk of your free time with those who are positive and vibrate highly. Surround yourself with people who are empowering, who support your positive life choices, people who are happy and do not complain or drain you. Remember that your friends are a reflection of you, and since you are obviously awesome, your friends must be just as awesome.

Random acts of kindness – Practice doing nice things for people just because. Practice compassion and learn to forgive, people’s actions and reactions are a reflection on them NOT you – choose positivity always!

Develop an attitude of gratitude – Every morning and evening find three things to be grateful for and say thank you in your mind and feel the gratitude in your heart. Keep in mind that when you focus on what you have you’ll always have more of it!

Learn to let go – We all have crappy dates from time to time, that’s ok, let it go. Don’t dwell on it or talk the experience to death with your friends. Instead choose to look for one positive thing about the day, even if it is how great you looked or the delicious meal you had. The more you focus on positives the more positive experiences you will invite into your life.

Dr. Wayne Dryer put it best in his book The Power of Intention: 

“What you may fail to see inside is a result of how you choose to process everything and everyone in your world. You project onto the world what you see inside, and you fail to project into the world what you fail to see inside. If you knew that you were an expression of the universal spirit of intention, that’s what you’d see. You’d raise your energy level beyond any possibility of encumbrances to your connection to the power of intention. It is only discord acting within your own feelings that will ever deprive you of every good thing that life holds for you! If you understand this simple observation, you’ll curb interferences to intention.”

If there is a particular topic you’d like me to write about or elaborate on please do send me your suggestions or comments on the contact links below.

With Love,



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