I’m writing this post as one of my Facebook fans requested I write a piece on the importance of raising to a higher vibration to attract positive life experiences. As a dating coach, I am writing this post from the perspective of how you can use this exercise to attract a great life partner.
In this instance, we will look at Positive Vibration and how you can consciously create positive life experiences for yourself. When you are happy and positive you will attract a happy and positive partner!
Every thing and experience we have are not a result of pure luck, chance or coincidence, we have created all that we see around us and all of this is made up of energy.
Our lives, our circumstances, the people we have in our life experience all of this is a result of our thoughts and actions, which of course are the manifestations we have brought into being.
Negative thoughts = negative circumstances = negative energy = negative vibration
The more negative we are the more negativity we attract. That being said, the same goes for positivity.
Positive thoughts = positive circumstances = positive energy = positive vibration
As someone with a positive vibration you may come across to the outside world as the luckiest girl alive – Someone who has everything they could ever want or wish for – but in truth, this is all something you create for yourself – anyone can do it if they really want to!
To determine your frequency is really quite simple. All you need to do is pause for a moment and pay close attention to your thoughts and how you are feeling. Think of some events over the last few days and focus on how you feel.
You will notice that when you think of something positive and hold that positive experience in your heart and mind, you feel happy, inspired and content; when you hold negative thoughts you feel disappointed, frustrated, angry or sad.
The better you feel, the higher your vibrational frequency will be; the worse, the lower.
Everything in your life experience begins with you!
As the creator of your life, the good news is you have the power to change your frequency at any moment. Even something as simple as smiling or laughing (laughter is the best medicine), doing something fun like listening to your favourite song, going for a swim or being creative can get the positive vibes flowing.
Here are a few ways to raise your vibration:
Meditate or practice Mindfulness (If you would like more information on how to do this please get in touch) – Extensive Scientific studies, including one at Harvard Medical School, shows that meditation and mindfulness practice permanently strengthens the most evolved portion of the human brain – the frontal lobe – which is linked to increased abstract thought, cognitive reasoning, creativity and positivity. It also triggers the brain to release naturally occurring neurotransmitters, including dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin and endorphins, which are linked to different aspects of happiness from simple pleasure to a deep sense of calm. Regardless of your religious orientation or which method you choose to meditate, sitting still for even five minutes a day can help you clear the mind, confront and minimize negative conscious and unconscious thinking patterns and connect to the divine space within that transcends thoughts, feeling and circumstance. Over time, this practice will raise your energetic frequency and contribute to a happier, more uplifted experience of yourself and others – This higher frequency will allow you to attract a partner that is equally happy and uplifting to be with.
Eat Clean – This does not mean you have to be a vegan or vegetarian to reap the benefits of a higher more positive vibration. Just pay attention to what you choose to eat. Some foods vibrate low and some vibrate high. If the food you consume is covered in pesticides, it will leave you feeling weaker. So will artificial highly processed foods. The good, high-vibrational foods are organic fruits, vegetables, whole grains, nuts, seeds, and naturally occurring fats – Rule of thumb is – if it’s highly processed its low energy.
Water and Movement – Stay hydrated. By drinking water you assist your bodily functions in so many ways, one of which is to expel toxins. Also, try to work some movement into your day, this does not have to be a daily half marathon but get your body moving, a short walk, dancing, yoga, anything that gets you up and moving. Remember a healthy body = a healthy mind and since our vibration is influenced primarily by our thoughts a healthy strong mind helps heaps.
TV and Music – Again, pay attention to what you watch and listen to Lyrics of anger, breakups, hurt, hate, pain, violence, drama and fear send messages to your subconscious. If you want to attract love, listen to songs about real, passionate, long-lasting love. Also, pay attention to the TV shows you watch, Sex and the City although entertaining does not send positive messages of healthy love relationships, in addition to this magazines, media and advertising are constantly showing us adverts that make us think shopping, travels or pills will resolve all our problems. Same goes for books and magazines – choose wisely.
Home and Work environments – You spend a lot of your time at home and at work. Although you cannot control the people you work with you can control your perception of them and you do have control of your workspace – Choose to look for the best in someone and deal with challenges in a positive way. Keep your work space clean, tidy and free of any clutter. Pay attention to your computer and phone wallpapers as well. At home use the same principle of neatness and clutter free environment – if you need a professional organiser to come and help you get one! (If you live in London I can recommend someone who will come and do this for you). Look into Feng Shui and position furniture, art, mirrors etc in the correct way. Some tips include:
- A good solid headboard placed firmly against a wall
- Fresh linen, clean curtains and soft furnishings all over your home
- Remove all unnecessary extra cushions and fluffy animal toys from your bed
- Use complementing colours in your home that create a balanced flow of love energy
- Select appropriate art for your home – no single sassy lady paintings – think love, romance, couples!
- No TV in the bedroom – The bedroom is for sleep and spending quality time with your love – YES even if you are still single it’s important to send the universe the correct message.
- No work in your bedroom – if you must use your laptop, once you are done put it away in your work bag.
- Furniture should be symmetrical – one bedside table does not work – if you don’t have room for two then get rid of the one.
- Beautify your home with art, flowers and fragrance
- Get rid of all reminders, gifts or articles that are connected to a previous relationship.
- Use candles in pairs to promote a loving glow – scented is good too
Toxic People – This includes friends and family. Consciously make the decision to spend the bulk of your free time with those who are positive and vibrate highly. Surround yourself with people who are empowering, who support your positive life choices, people who are happy and do not complain or drain you. Remember that your friends are a reflection of you, and since you are obviously awesome, your friends must be just as awesome.
Random acts of kindness – Practice doing nice things for people just because. Practice compassion and learn to forgive, people’s actions and reactions are a reflection on them NOT you – choose positivity always!
Develop an attitude of gratitude – Every morning and evening find three things to be grateful for and say thank you in your mind and feel the gratitude in your heart. Keep in mind that when you focus on what you have you’ll always have more of it!
Learn to let go – We all have crappy dates from time to time, that’s ok, let it go. Don’t dwell on it or talk the experience to death with your friends. Instead choose to look for one positive thing about the day, even if it is how great you looked or the delicious meal you had. The more you focus on positives the more positive experiences you will invite into your life.
Dr. Wayne Dryer put it best in his book The Power of Intention:
“What you may fail to see inside is a result of how you choose to process everything and everyone in your world. You project onto the world what you see inside, and you fail to project into the world what you fail to see inside. If you knew that you were an expression of the universal spirit of intention, that’s what you’d see. You’d raise your energy level beyond any possibility of encumbrances to your connection to the power of intention. It is only discord acting within your own feelings that will ever deprive you of every good thing that life holds for you! If you understand this simple observation, you’ll curb interferences to intention.”
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